My friend committed suicide many years ago and I was amazed to hear what many people thought about the subject and how much fear and suffering this belief caused amongst families. My job as a psychic medium is to provide evidence of the life hereafter, but it is more than that. I am often, as other mediums are, privy to information the non-mediumistic person can't normally perceive. This information is about the reality of our lives here on earth and the interaction of spiritual forces within our lives.
I like many others, have seen the other side and walked in the garden of the spirit just as many mediums have before. It is easier for me to deal with the process known as death because of the knowledge that I and many of my contemporaries have, yet losing a loved one never becomes easier no matter how much you understand.
I have been asked often if I believe in the afterlife, and I often retort, "Of course I don't believe in the afterlife, that's absurd." I smile enigmatically when I see the glee in their faces when they think they may have got one over on me. Then I exclaim, "I don't believe in it because belief suggests that it may not be real. I know it's real, therefore I know it's true." And that's when I see the smile wiped from their faces. The reality that I know, allows me to interact on a level that creates a communion with the other side.
Now, because I and many other mediums know this, I want to try to set the record straight on the fact of suicide. But before I do, I want to discuss the act of suicide, why it happens and whether it can be influenced. The turmoil that one must experience before they finally take their own life is tremendous, and I am not talking about an accidental passing.
Many who take their own life feel there is nothing more to live for, even though they may have loved ones nearby – sometimes you can't see the wood for the trees and so there seems no other way out. Personally, I feel there are many reasons, but two are probably more fundamental than others. One problem is the financial status of the individual or indeed the financial pit they have fallen into, and the other is the lack of love in their lives or indeed the lack of forgiveness. Theirs is a type of grief. They feel so alone and unloved and may not see that loved ones are near to them.
It is a sad fact that many often find themselves in a financial pit with no way out and the inability to provide for themselves or their families often drives them to take the easy way out, which of course is death.
Loneliness is another problem that often causes someone to attempt suicide and this is just another facet of a loveless life. No one can really understand why or what it takes to push a human being over the edge. Many who attempt suicide, or think they are doing it – are merely crying out for help. Obviously there are times when this cry for help can go wrong and the individual passes by accidental means. No matter what, we will never really understand the mind of someone who is suffering so bad they wish to end their lives, thinking it is easier.
Influence Of Suicide
The other rather disturbing and probably one of the saddest aspects of taking one's own life can actually be at the feet of a negative influence. I would like to break down this aspect into to hypothesis of thought. One school of thought is:
Peer and Group Influence
In this case, an individual can be influenced by a group or cult pressure such as in the examples of the following case in Jamestown South America as noted in the History.com article on James Town.
“On this day in 1978, Peoples Temple founder Jim Jones leads hundreds of his followers in a mass murder-suicide at their agricultural commune in a remote part of the South American nation of Guyana. Many of Jones’ followers willingly ingested a poison-laced punch while others were forced to do so at gunpoint. The final death toll at Jonestown that day was 909; a third of those who perished were children.”
Order Of The Solar Temple
From 1974 through to 1997, the Order of The Solar Temple’s members carried out a religious act and began a mass suicide. It is believed that 74 members lost their lives. This, of course, was clearly planned with the promise of a better life on the other side, as suggested by the farewell letters that were left behind. Additionally, those that were left behind became the victims of another attempt at mass suicide in the late 1990s which was averted by authorities. Interestingly these suicides coincided with certain times in the religious calendar.
The other school of thought is:
Malevolent Influence from Discarnate Beings
Information about malevolent influences has been gleaned from the other side of life with testimonies from esteemed pioneers such as Edgar Cayce, Carl Wickland, Red Cloud, Silver Birch and many more. There are examples of evil influence in the Bible, Talmud, Quran and many other religious texts.
Evil influences, whether it be from a discarnate being or a malevolent intelligence have the same parallel of the wanted outcome, that of the destruction of the human form and the controlling of the will of the individual under that influence. It can, therefore, be argued that many suicides could actually be at the hands of another being or intelligence and not the real will of the individual that is under the subjugated influence.
I know from two of my own cases in the past, that spirit influence was at the root of the desire to commit suicide. Both cases exhibited similar modus operandi from the discarnate intelligence, who I am glad to say, was rebuked and failed in their attempts.
I am not going to discuss all aspects of the spirit world here and for those of you that want to know more, it's all in my book, “Deadly Departed – The Do’s, Donts and Dangers of Afterlife Communication.” But I do want to make a point so that you may feel a little comfort.
I mentioned before that many individuals who have sat before me privately or in groups have had a deep-rooted fear that the individual they love may not be in the place they call heaven or wherever else you believe exists. The turmoil and anguish they put themselves through are tremendous and I can't help feeling that false doctrine is at the bottom of it all. After all – doctrine is of man and not divine in any way.
I have news for you; those who commit suicide are taken into the loving arms of spirit people in the spirit world who love and care for them until they reach their own awakening. Of course, those that are left behind often do not understand this and fear their loved one has gone to hell or a holding place, which can often cause great distress. You can be assured this does not happen, and if you can envision your loved one in the arms of a beautiful angel or your own loved ones who have passed over, you can rest peacefully, knowing that your loved ones are safe and well.
Ok, so now you are going to ask how we know this and I don't blame you. There is a plethora of information that has come from beyond the grave time and time again – not only in readings but in trance seances where the evidence has been irrefutable.
Scientists investigating the afterlife have so much intelligence at their fingertips that skepticism in pseudo form is no longer valid. But where the divide exists is between the ignorance of science that has no idea on the mechanics of the afterlife and tries to fit a square peg in a round hole.
However, probably the most satisfying evidence is the evidence which one witness in a private setting when the loved one comes back and tells how it is from the horse's mouth – along with the evidence required for the sitter. Often our loved ones will return to try to allay the fears of those they left behind by little telltale signs they are still around. Much of the time, these signs are missed and often ignored because of the grief that one may be experiencing or indeed because of other individuals' perceptions.
They will often visit in your dream state just to let you now that all is well and sadly, the individual receiving the message will put this down to their grief and need to feel they are alive. Other small signs such as hearing them calling you or manipulating energy in your environment are also often missed. If you could only know – not believe – what I know, you would take comfort in knowing that your loved ones are not in a terrible place if they took themselves over. They are in loving arms and will let you know they are well.
In closing, what you must know is that suicide is not the easy way out, as one still has to work through things in the spirit world. This will be featured in a further article.